Managing Anger

Hi everyone. Thank you for joining me again today in this meditation. We will explore ways to deal with anger and stress in our life. There are many ways that anger and stress get in the way of having a happy life. It is so very very important that we all realize that anger and stress come from inside us.

Outside events and people can of course make our lives difficult but so much of our stress and anger and unhappiness come from our own responses to all these things that happen outside of ourselves. We cannot control other people or everything about the world around us, but we can control how we react to it.

What we choose to think about and feel about these things that happen around us or to us.

Find a very comfortable place to sit or lie down. So you won’t have to think of your body directly for this meditation. You want to place where you can just travel in your mind and spirit letting your body rest comfortably wherever you choose.

Now close your eyes and as always breathe in.

Breathe out.

Let us start with something simple so you can understand and feel what I am explaining when you are totally relaxed. Try to remember something that has happened in the last day or two something small something. That was not nice like someone maybe your sister called you a bad name.

Do not move your body or get tense or upset. Just think about this little thing that happened as if you were someone else a stranger just watching this scene happen. You’re angry sister calling you something nasty means nothing to that stranger.

Just something one kid said to another breathe in.

Breathe out.

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Now imagine being that stranger and look with the eyes of the stranger the stranger sees an unhappy kid saying something nasty to another kid for no good reason.

But the stranger does see how unhappy your sister is and also sees that her anger was not about you. It was about her and how bad she already felt.

Now you can choose do you get mad with your sister and yelled back at her? Of course you want to but wait a minute what your sister did was about her reaction to how unhappy she feels. Was this really about you.

And even if you did something to make her upset, do you have to react with anger and make it all so much worse? You see you can choose how you react to your sister. You could yell back calling her a name and make the fight bigger and angrier. But what would that prove?

What would that solve? Would that be loving or you can stop take a breath and think this is her reaction. I can choose not to react and not to make things even more angry and stressful. I can just not be nasty and mad or I can just walk away.

Breathe in breathe out.

You can do the same things to help you with other stress in your life by choosing not to be a victim. That is someone who thinks they have no control over anything that happens things happen to all of us all the time some good some neutral some bad. We can choose how we let ourselves think about and feel about anything that happens out.

Side of us and an excellent and very very helpful way to deal with anger and stress is so simple to just stop and breathe breathe in.

Breathe out.

No, it does not solve problems, but it always will help you deal with your problems and stress because it will help you relax and move away from your anger fear unhappiness.

To relax is to be able to think more clearly and if you think more clearly you will make better choices. So when your sister or brother says something nasty to you or you miss the bus or you break something or you lose something or you make someone else mad you can do something very simple. You can pause take a deep breath or take two.

Two or maybe three and step back from the difficulty looking at it as a stranger. Someone not emotionally involved and then see the best way to move forward without anger without stress and with love.

breathing

Breathe out.

Gently follow my words as you breathe deeply breathe in.

I choose my path. I am not a victim breathe out.

I will stop breathe and then move ahead with love and calm.

breathing

I choose my path. I am not a victim.

Breathe out.

I will stop breathe and then move ahead with love and calm.

breathe in

I choose my path. I am not a victim breathe out.

I will stop breathe and then move ahead with love and calm.